Madonia-O'Rourke
Paige Suzanna Madonia and Timothy Patrick O'Rourke will be married on April 30 at the Basilica of St. Louis in St. Louis, Mo. The bride is the daughter of Russ and Jill Madonia of St. Charles, Mo. The groom is the son of Tim and Colleen O'Rourke of Louisville, Ky.
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Price-Huett
Genevieve Elise Price and Christopher George Huett will be married on May 28 at St. Brigid of Kildare Church in Pacific, Mo. The bride is the daughter of John and Cecelia Price of Louisville. The groom is the son of Thomas and Carol Huett of St. Louis. The couple will reside in Pacific.
Roberts-Kempf
Brittany Anne Roberts and Brad Joseph Kempf will be married on Sept. 30 at St. Agnes Church. The bride is the daughter of Robert and Sandra Roberts. She is a graduate of Sacred Heart Academy and Bellarmine University and works as a pediatric occupational therapist. The groom is the son of Earl and Donna Kempf. He is a graduate of St. Xavier High School and Western Kentucky University and works as a finance manager at Kentucky Venues. The couple will reside in Louisville.
Shearn-Vandenberg
Sydney Marie Shearn and Alexander Lee Vandenberg will be married on Feb. 19 at the Ursuline Motherhouse Chapel. The bride is the daughter of David and Barbara Shearn of Louisville. She is a graduate of Sacred Heart Academy and the U.S. Naval Academy, and works for the U.S. Navy. The groom is the son of Gregory Vandenberg of Los Angeles and Sheri and Tony Mazzocchi of Sugar Grove, Ill. He is a graduate of the U.S. Naval Academy and works for the U.S. Marine Corps. The couple will reside in Pensacola, Fla.
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Deacon Derrick: The power of finances in your marriage cannot be under- stated. I don't care how long you've been married or the amount of your annual in- come, every couple struggles with their finances. Unfor- tunately, money and fights over money are the leading cause of divorce in the first seven years of marriage. Like all couples, Mistianna and I have faced a variety of financial hardships that have torn at the very fab- ric of our marriage. When we were first married, we fell deeply in debt and were sued because we couldn't pay our credit card bills. We also came within days of filing for bankruptcy and losing our home. We learned the hard way that when you aren't in agreement on your finances your marriage suffers. Mistianna: Early in our marriage, Derrick and I nev- er talked about finances. I was mortified and embar- rassed when the sheriff came to tell us we were being sued. I had no idea we were hav- ing trouble paying our bills; or that we were robbing Pe- ter to pay Paul. What I did know was that my extreme spending had gotten us to that point. I also knew that Derrick's inability to commu- nicate our finances equally contributed to our situation. We weren't spending or sav- ing as a couple because we weren't communicating as spouses. Deacon Derrick: When Mistianna and I got mar- ried I expected everything to be for the "better." My Dad knew differently because he and my mom had faced hardships in their marriage. When he and my mom were going through a rough patch, he'd say, "this is a worser." I never understood what that meant until Mistianna and I faced our own financial "worsers." It was through one of these "worsers" that I learned why a budget was an important tool in mar- riage. By having a budget, Mistianna and I communi- cate about how we want to spend and save our money. This gives us each a voice in how our money will be spent in our marriage. Mistianna: Even though I know budgeting helps Der- rick and I take control of our money, it's not easy for me. You see, I have a shop- ping addiction, and I want to be able to buy anything I want. For years shopping was my coping mechanism; and I liked the highs and lows that came from buying things. Even though I have developed new ways of cop- ing, like all addicts, it's some- thing I struggle with daily. Having a budget helps me take control of my addiction and puts parameters around my spending. It allows Der- rick and I to make the best choices for our money. Deacon Derrick: In a perfect marriage both spous- es would sit down and create a budget together without any disagreements. But mar- riage isn't perfect, it's messy; and that means the budget- ing process in marriage is also messy. In most marriag- es there is always one spouse who is detail-oriented and likes dealing with numbers. In my marriage that's me. There is also always another spouse who sees budgeting as a form of medieval torture and that's Mistianna. As the detail-oriented spouse, it's my job to prepare the budget. Once I've created the bud- get, I turn my masterpiece over to Mistianna to make changes. It kills me to watch her add and delete items on our budget. Once Mistianna is through making her sug- gestions, we talk about the things we want to spend our money on. At that point we become a budget committee of two. Each of us gets a vote in how our money is spent and there are no ties. This forces us to communicate and compromise with the other about our financial priori- ties. Having a budget is one of the best tools couples can make for the longevity of their marriage. Deacon Derrick and Mis- tianna Barnes serve as mar- riage preparation coordina- tors for the Archdiocese of Louisville and are assigned to St. Margaret Mary Church. They blog about marriage at sacredmessymarriage.com.
Struggling with finances in marriage
DEACON DERRICK & MISTIANNA BARNES I think it is a written requirement somewhere that every wedding recep- tion has to play the song "Celebration" by Kool & The Gang at some point. Whether it is the original 1980 recording or a per- formance by a live band, everyone just expects this song. It creates a mood of joy and gladness and en- livens even those who just sit in their chairs. I used to be one of those, but thanks to my dear wife I repented of that practice some time ago. Weddings are moments of great festivity which every culture around the globe acknowledges as unique. The blessed union of a wife and husband in the presence of God is al- ways something warm, in- tentional and unlike any other party we might at- tend. I am certain this is because we all recognize the sacred when it is in our midst. As Director of the Of- fice of Family and Life Ministries, as well as an ordained deacon, I have had the honor of presiding at literally scores of wed- dings as well as facilitat- ing in the preparation of hundreds of couples. I tell each and every one of them the exact same thing: the Catholic Church specializ- es in providing 'stress free weddings.' Even though I say that slightly tongue- in-cheek, it does accurately reflect our intention. To me, there's noth- ing more beautiful than a wedding liturgy celebrated well; with reverence, radi- ance and grace. The gifting of a sacrament should be seen as a reflection of God; an event when he comes to earth and interacts with his beloved children once again. In the case of matrimony, those beloved children participate in the furthering of his kingdom by beginning life all over again. Of course, that is something to celebrate. Congratulations to all the many couples getting married this upcoming season, both those whom I will personally encoun- ter and otherwise. Enjoy this time. Play the song. Sing along with Kool & The Gang. You know the words. Delight in this mo- ment. What you do now is forever and is indeed worthy of celebration. Deacon Stephen Bowling is the director of the Office of Family and Life Minis- tries at the Archdiocese of Louisville.
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Mingus-Gardner
Ashley Kay Mingus and Charles T. Gardner will be married on Oct. 15 at St. Lawrence Church. The bride is the daughter of Bruce and Karen Mingus. She is a graduate of Spalding University and works as a registered nurse at The Brook. The groom is the son of Barry and Denise Gardner of Shelbyville, Ky. He is a graduate of Indiana University Southeast and works for Norton Hospital. The couple will reside in Louisville.
Moore-Castellano
Shelby Brooke Moore and William Pedro Castellano will be married on Oct. 21 at St. James Church in Elizabethtown, Ky. The bride is the daughter of Randall and Lisa Moore of Elizabethtown. The groom is the son of Malcom Matzdorff Jr. of Elizabethtown and Erika Del Carmen- Gibson of Radcliff, Ky. They are federal employees at Fort Knox. The couple will reside in Elizabethtown.
Reid-Bartlett
Rowan Lee Reid and Jacob Michael Bartlett will be married on Jan. 22 at St. Xavier Church in Cincinnati, Ohio. The bride is the daughter of Michael and Therese Reid of Louisville. The groom is the son of Joseph and Rebecca Bartlett of Alexandria, Ky. The couple will reside in Cincinnati.
Stilger-Eagleton
Lana Stilger and Zachary Eagleton will be married on Sept. 24 at the Cathedral of the Assumption. The bride is the daughter of Terry and Debra Stigler of Prospect, Ky. She is a graduate of Sacred Heart Academy, Vanderbilt University of Engineering and the University of Louisville, and works for the University of Louisville Athletic Department. The groom is the son of Lanie and Linda Eagleton of Springfield, Ill. He is a graduate of Springfield High School and Vanderbilt University of Engineering and works as a key account manager at Signify. The couple will reside in Prospect.
Unfortunately, money and fights over money are the leading cause of divorce in the first seven years of marriage
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